We worry. That’s what parents do.
You can have a child who has “a worry.”
I have to pretend to not worry because I tell him everything is ok…all day long.
Then I began to worry that he got the worry from me.
Then I remind him, and myself, that our “worry” really means we are aware of how blessed we are.
It is a blessing to be aware of your gifts. It makes you work harder to be worthy.
We complete our homework because we worry about what it would do to our grades if we don’t. I tell him.
It is the people that worry that get things done.
The same way that chocolate goes with vanilla, worry goes with success.
There are people who are paralyzed by worry and sometimes they never leave their homes. I tell him that fear can be like a disease.
We talk about, talking about worrying and I tell him how healthy that is.
I am thankful for my worry, and for being aware of it, and thankful it does not cripple me.
Teaching your children how to find their blessing sometimes helps us just as much as it helps them.
What do you do to keep your worries in check and have you had a little worrier of your own? Do you tell your kids to just relax or do you teach them how to listen to their fears?
Abbie, All that makes you… allthatmakesyou.com
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nice reframe on worry. I may use that with clients.
Thank you. More of me being my own therapist. 😉 Kidding.
I just sat with my daughter for over an hour last night listening to her “worries” over how her classmates and peers made fun of her yesterday for nothing really (as middle school kids can do). It’s so hard to tell my kids not to worry when there are things I worry about, too. I just keep reminding her that she need not worry as long as the people who love her accept her for who she is. And we do. 🙂
I love that saying, “Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.” Dr Seuss I think. I keep repeating it to my kids.
Great post! I have a 10-year-old who worries. I am not sure where he gets it – but I hope he will grow out of it.
My son’s “worry” is very specific and very special, (insert crossed eyed smiley.) For real, it has been a massive issue. I never imagined, when I planned on having children, that even something like this existed. No rational. He realizes it. Then you have to console him that he will eventually stop worrying about something bad happening to his little brother. Meanwhile, little brother is already planning his exit strategy on his 18th birthday because his big brother drags him around by the collar, prohibiting him from having any fun.
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This post really hit home for me today, I read it this morning while I was in the midst of worrying about the fate of Mrs. Peas. Haha. Thanks for posting, it provided me with much needed moral support when I needed it!
Awwww, I like that. I hope your worry helps you work out what is best for your family and Mrs Peas!
This post reminds me of one of my favorite quotes. “There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.” – Harold Stephens.
It can be so overwhelming at times. I think we worry so much from the moment we find out we are going to be parents that when we reach the breaking point, our kids start to be able to verbalize their own fears. Then as a parent we try so hard to reassure them and in doing so we teach ourselves a few lessons.